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Stop Asking Me for Sexy [Naked] Photos!!!!!
We’ve all seen, or at least heard about, the naked pictures of Rihanna, Cassie, Jamie Foxx, Santonio Holmes, Dorian (Pause) from BET, Vanessa Hudgens, ALLEGEDLY Dwight Howard, more recently Naomi’s mutilated-looking parts…and any number of other celebrities who have had private photos leak. And, predictably, every time one of these photos leak someone writes a self-righteous post about how silly these celebs are to ever take the photos in the first place.
Personally, I don’t mind the celeb photo leaks because celebrities spend a lot of time half naked in the press anyway. Plus, it’s not like someone is going to hold their sexy photos and sex tapes against them in a job interview. However, sexy photos can be a serious issue for regular people. And that’s why I don’t understand why men expect women to send them and why so many women comply.
A month or so ago, Tyra Banks aired a show on teenage girls (all white) who were sending photographs to their “boyfriends” (the term boyfriend was used VERY loosely). I started to feel bad for the myspace generation. The generation of girls who think that they are going to models and celebrities and who think that displaying scantily clad pictures of yourself in curious poses all over the innanets are the way to get ahead in society.
But then I realized that this issue is not just one for teenage girls, and certainly not one limited to white women. I’m 27 and in the past 2 months I have been asked by 3 separate men, none of whom I am married too…none of whom have paid nary a bill for me to send them “private pictures” via black berry messenger or by email. The final straw was when, after getting to know a pretty famous baller over a few months, he asked me for a photo, and when I refused, it was over like that.
Now obviously, anyone who would drop me over a picture is certainly not the man I want in my life. However, it got me thinking.
On twitter, I posed a question to my male followers, “Do men now EXPECT women to send them naked/private pictures?” About 12 professional, over-25 yr old men answered me and said yes. 2 of them were celebrities. But the other 10 should know that a woman who sends such a picture is taking a risk. To be fair, all the men mentioned that trust should factor into a woman’s decision; however, I don’t think that any woman should trust any man that much, unless of course you’re married (You gotta have a little fun right?…or maybe not!).
What if he gets angry with you one day?
What if he loses his phone?
What if he throws his computer away without cleaning out the data?
What if his other girl or next girl goes into his email box and gets upset and sends them out?
There are just too many scenarios that make sending these types of photos more trouble than they’re worth.
Men are always saying that they want a woman who has “her own.” Well women who have “their own” get it by having careers which many times require they uphold their reputations and images. It seems like these same men would understand why a woman would be concerned about exposing all her business to the public. I’m not saying that men shouldn’t ask, hell it never hurts to try! But to be angry when women don’t comply just shows that those men aren’t serious when they speak of desiring a quality woman.
I guess the point of me writing this is to try to understand why women agree to send the photos…one of my male friends said he thinks that women enjoy being admired by strangers, that it makes them feel good when they send a guy a picture and he’s complimentary. But that still doesn’t help me understand why they’re worth sending–especially when most of these girls don’t even have sense enough to leave their face out of the photo.
Please use the comment box to help me understand. And all of you females who are busy sending these guys sexy photos, please take a minute from messing up the game for the rest of us and explain why you do what you do. I promise not to judge…much.
Click here for the CRAZIEST sex tape story I’ve heard. A billionaire heiress is doing everything she can to keep her tape out the public. I must admit I am perplexed by this story. She’s already rich, who cares what anyone thinks? Or is she doing something REALLY humiliating in this video…if so what??? Cause if it were me, I’d be too busy spending money to worry about somebody putting out my sex tape. If you can’t live free as a billionaire I guess you never can…
Your Foot Fetish, My Confusion
What is it with dudes and feet? I’m serious right now. What is it?
Every couple weeks as a sashay bout in my stilettos some guy compliments me on my shoes. If we end up going out, at some point he says something to the likes of, let me see your feet.
Huh?
In fact, a couple of times I have had guys compliment me on my sexy shoes and then make mention that I probably have nice feet.
Once again, what???
Does that even sound right? How do men think women’s feet get messed up in the first place?
Let me say in no uncertain terms, my feet are not cute. Since 2002, I have been wearing stilettos or some sort of high-heel on a daily basis. My feet have been rubbed to the death top front bottom and side to side. I don’t have Boomerang Lela Rochon feet, but still my tootsies are nothing to brag about or take pictures of…unless you are a photographer for Wheredeydodatat.net.
I keep my pedicures up, keep my toes painted, and feet moisturized. Still, MY FEET ARE NOT CUTE. My pedicurist (is that a word?) at Nusta spa in downtown dc gives me pedicures that temporarily make it look like I got a foot transplant. But until such a day that a foot transplant is invented, MY FEET WILL REMAIN UNCUTE. Plus, why would I bother getting a foot transplant only to, once again, insert my new more admirable feet into stiletto L.A.M.Bs?
( L.A.M.B.'s black Rasta boot photo courtesy of intheircloset.com)
Men, please use the comment box to explain your obsession with feet. Last time I checked not that many of you were into toe sucking and not that many of you are giving regular romantic footrubs…so what does it matter what our feet look like as long as we keep them moisturized so they don’t make minced meat out of your leg in the bed?
I used to have really pretty feet, before stilettos. I noticed my feet gradually becoming uncuter and uncuter as time went on but I didn’t care. My shoes are glorious and they make me feel sexy. And it’s not like my toes are jumbled up or deformed or bunioned (is that a word?) So…I just rolled, and still roll, with my stiletto lifestyle.
Honestly, I would compare having pretty feet to long hair–nice in theory but simply not practical for me. When I was growing up people raved about my hair. When I was in elementary school my mom let my hair grow half way down my back. She used to braid it really tight. She finally let me wear my hair out for picture day. My hair was so long and thick it got stuck in the cracks in my desk in class, then later, it got tangled in my book bag when I tried to take it off on the bus.
When Monica, the singer came out, I wanted to be like her so I cut my hair really short. People who barely knew me were upset as though I’d snuck into their houses in the middle of the night and chopped off their springy ash blonde curls rather than my own.
After a few years I got nostalgic and decided to let my hair grow midway my back again. Everything was fine and good until I arrived at the hair salon and found out there would be a $15 extra charge even though she didn’t quite know what to do with it. Not to mention my hair is so curly even a relaxer won’t keep it straight. Now, I only wear my real hair when I feel like letting my inner Kelis circa 1999 out, and even still I rarely let it grow past my shoulders.
The lovely Alicia Keys - who probably rarely has to style her own hair
See I have learned that having long hair isn’t not going to get me anywhere in life, and neither is having pretty feet. I figured stilettos would get me further in life than pretty feet, jury’s still out on that; however I am POSITIVE that no one is going to give me a job, a man, a house, 3 boys and a girl, or my ultimate fantasy, a Range Rover, because I have flawless feet… unless I apply at one of those foot fetish web sites. Men, if I’m wrong, please let me know how soon I could have expected my Range to arrive after us meeting if I would have showed you something pretty when I took off my Bronx leather thigh-high stilettos instead of the homely footies I display when I eventually go barefoot in front of you.
While I have you here, men should know that if a woman says she wears high-heels, in particular, stilettos DAILY and you look at her feet and they are beautiful she is lying. She may wear stilettos going out, she may wear heels around the office but she damn sure doesn’t wear them on the train or from her car to the job or to the grocery store or to the mall. You can’t have it both ways. And no 3” platforms are not stilettos, if you think they are, I got a shoe closet that will bring tears to your eyes. Fellas (and lesbians), if you like your woman in heels rather than sneakers, please understand that a flawed foot is your friend.
How My Dog Is Just Like a Man
(Kai…my german shepherd)
1. He misbehaves even though he knows I will put him out–he literally runs out of the room when I say “Out.”
2. After I put him out, he sneaks back in when I’m not looking. Sometimes he actually puts his head down and looks away as though that makes him invisible.
3. When he’s bad, he immediately apologizes by trying to be affectionate. This can include trying to lay his head on my chest.
4. If he makes me really mad he’ll go away for a while and then come back later and act like nothing ever happened.
5. He brings me things I don’t want (dead fish heads or trash), and if I don’t pretend to like them, his feelings get hurt.
6. He unknowingly takes more than he gives.
7. He walks around looking for shit to get into and won’t rest until he finds something.
8. When he meets girls, he immediately tries to hump them.
9. Once he realizes he can’t destroy something, he doesn’t want to play with it anymore.
10. He’s aggressive towards most men, friendly to some, but LOVES every woman he meets.
11. He immediately falls in love with anyone who brings him food or treats.
12. When he doesn’t want to do something he pretends to be sleeping or too busy eating.
13. When I leave the house he pretends to be upset when really he can’t wait for me to leave so he can sleep or do his own thing.
14. After being reprimanded repeatedly for making the mistake he is still confused about why I’m upset.
15. When he doesn’t like something I’m doing he moans and groans about instead of just getting up and leaving the room.
16. He relaxes by playing with balls—this can include tennis balls and footballs as well as his “natural’ ones.
17. He knows he’s too cute to stay mad at.
18. He always feels affectionate in the morning jumping on the bed with me and wanting to be petted and hugged; he’s also really aggressive with it trying repeatedly after being shot down. If I’m not in the mood, he cops an attitude and leaves the room.
And the final reason my dog is just like a man…
19. For some reason, I refuse to give up on him.