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We’ve all seen, or at least heard about, the naked pictures of Rihanna, Cassie, Jamie Foxx, Santonio Holmes, Dorian (Pause) from BET, Vanessa Hudgens, ALLEGEDLY Dwight Howard, more recently Naomi’s mutilated-looking parts…and any number of other celebrities who have had private photos leak. And, predictably, every time one of these photos leak someone writes a self-righteous post about how silly these celebs are to ever take the photos in the first place.

Personally, I don’t mind the celeb photo leaks because celebrities spend a lot of time half naked in the press anyway. Plus, it’s not like someone is going to hold their sexy photos and sex tapes against them in a job interview. However, sexy photos can be a serious issue for regular people. And that’s why I don’t understand why men expect women to send them and why so many women comply.

A month or so ago, Tyra Banks aired a show on teenage girls (all white) who were sending photographs to their “boyfriends” (the term boyfriend was used VERY loosely). I started to feel bad for the myspace generation. The generation of girls who think that they are going to models and celebrities and who think that displaying scantily clad pictures of yourself in curious poses all over the innanets are the way to get ahead in society.

But then I realized that this issue is not just one for teenage girls, and certainly not one limited to white women. I’m 27 and in the past 2 months I have been asked by 3 separate men, none of whom I am married too…none of whom have paid nary a bill for me to send them “private pictures” via black berry messenger or by email.  The final straw was when, after getting to know a pretty famous baller over a few months, he asked me for a photo, and when I refused, it was over like that.

Now obviously, anyone who would drop me over a picture is certainly not the man I want in my life. However, it got me thinking.

On twitter, I posed a question to my male followers, “Do men now EXPECT women to send them naked/private pictures?” About 12 professional, over-25 yr old men answered me and said yes. 2 of them were celebrities. But the other 10 should know that a woman who sends such a picture is taking a risk. To be fair, all the men mentioned that trust should factor into a woman’s decision; however, I don’t think that any woman should trust any man that much, unless of course you’re married (You gotta have a little fun right?…or maybe not!).

What if he gets angry with you one day?

What if he loses his phone?

What if he throws his computer away without cleaning out the data?

What if his other girl or next girl goes into his email box and gets upset and sends them out?

There are just too many scenarios that make sending these types of photos more trouble than they’re worth.

Men are always saying that they want a woman who has “her own.” Well women who have “their own” get it by having careers which many times require they uphold their reputations and images.  It seems like these same men would understand why a woman would be concerned about exposing all her business to the public. I’m not saying that men shouldn’t ask, hell it never hurts to try! But to be angry when women don’t comply just shows that those men aren’t serious when they speak of desiring a quality woman.

I guess the point of me writing this is to try to understand why women agree to send the photos…one of my male friends said he thinks that women enjoy being admired by strangers, that it makes them feel good when they send a guy a picture and he’s complimentary. But that still doesn’t help me understand why they’re worth sending–especially when most of these girls don’t even have sense enough to leave their face out of the photo.

Please use the comment box to help me understand. And all of you females who are busy sending these guys sexy photos, please take a minute from messing up the game for the rest of us and explain why you do what you do. I promise not to judge…much.

Click here for the CRAZIEST sex tape story I’ve heard. A billionaire heiress is doing everything she can to keep her tape out the public. I must admit I am perplexed by this story. She’s already rich, who cares what anyone thinks? Or is she doing something REALLY humiliating in this video…if so what??? Cause if it were me, I’d be too busy spending money to worry about somebody putting out my sex tape. If you can’t live free as a billionaire I guess you never can…